She said What!

On top of feeling horrible last week, we had a very unfortunate night at dance on Thursday. As I’ve been saying in previous posts, the whole dance thing hasn’t gone so well. Over the past few weeks, it did seem like things were improving, and even the week before last, I was so excited that Mya actually started participating. Well, this last Thursday it all went out the window. As usual, when it’s time to go to class, Mya starts clinging to my leg, and gearing up the tears, just in case she needs them later. The teacher told Mya that mommy could stay in the room, but only if she participated. We walked into the room, I took my usual spot in the corner and told Mya to go pick a star and sit down with the rest of the girls. That’s when it all went down hill. Mya wouldn’t join the group, I was getting frustrated, the teacher was getting frustrated, so I took Mya by the hand to lead her to join the rest of the group, well, she started crying. The teacher took Mya and told her she had to participate, the more the teacher tried to force Mya to join, the more resistant Mya became. At this point she’s in full blown tantrum and refuses to do anything but cling to my neck. For the first time since dace has started, this lady, whom I’ve never met, comes from the other room. I assume she’s an instructor assistant coming to the rescue of Mya’s teacher. Anyway, she took Mya from me, and told me that I could go in the other room and that this is something that Mya is just going to have to go through and get over. I understand that, I really do, no one wants this more for Mya than I do. I want her to feel at ease around her peers. This lady told me before I walked out the door, if Mya gets too bad, she’ll bring her to me, and as with the first class, it didn’t take 5 minutes before the door opened. I took Mya from the lady, comforted her, and then came to the conclusion that this is just not going to happen, not at this point in time. Maybe three is too young? I really don’t know, but I do know that I was tired of putting Mya through this week after week, only to end up with the same results each week. I told Mya this would be her last dance class, went into the classroom to get her bag, spoke briefly with the teacher, who agreed with my conclusion, and we left. Okay, all that was fine with me, Bob and I discussed this, we would give it a month and see how it went, now it’s over. The part that bothered me, and had me fuming all the way home, was when Mya asked, while we were driving home, “Momma, did I hurt your feelings?” I said, no, you didn’t hurt my feelings, and Mya says, “Yes, I did, that lady told me.” Again, I explained that she didn’t hurt my feelings, we won’t pursue dance, blah, blah, blah, and Mya again said, “I did hurt your feelings, that lady told me, if I cry it will hurt your feelings, and I cried.” I was furious! How dare this lady make her feel guilty! I fumed over this all the way home, I didn’t sleep that night, and of course, I was talking to Mya all night trying to make sure she knew that my feelings weren’t hurt, and if she didn’t want to dance, that’s okay with me. Argh!

After our dance ordeal, I asked Mya if she would like to stop by and see Mr. Bo! That was a huge YES! With her having such problems in dealing with her peers, I think it’s even more important that she stay involved in something, so we stopped by to see what gymnastics classes she might be able to join. Luckily, they have a new class starting up and we will start there in a couple of weeks! Yeah! Mya loves Mr. Bo and the people there. I just hope she doesn’t have the same issues when it comes time to participate in class. In the past she loved gymnastics, but it was the Mommy and Me class, this time she gets to go out there alone. I’m keeping my fingers crossed!

New Mya Quip: Mya was playing in the bath tub yesterday and was asking for a cup to play with. I told her to wait a minute because I was busy doing something else at the moment. Out of her mouth came: “Can you say Snap, Snap!” I replied, “Excuse me!” and she said it again! “Can you say Snap, Snap!” Where do they come up with this stuff? At three! And you should hear the grief she gives Bob! She’s really got it in for him!

I’m still looking forward to Halloween! My Aunt and Uncle are having the annual Halloween party at their house again this year. I can’t wait to see what she comes up with for the scavenger hunt! Last year was brilliant! People actually jumped in the pond to get their clues! There was a row boat sitting beside the pond! I couldn’t believe it! I wouldn’t jump in that pond in broad daylight, so I can’t even imagine jumping in at night! Knowing Tina, it will be a great party with some very clever games!


TTFN!